The vocation of protector--monitoring our children online
by Fr Sean Kilcawley
For the past six months I have spoken with many parents, young people, and couples about the dangers of the internet and technology. More directly, I have been speaking to them about the danger of internet pornography. Pornography poses a grave threat to individuals, couples and families, and society. Viewing it results in a mixture of pleasure, guilt, and shame so although people experience it as something that “feels good” most people “feel bad” about themselves after doing so. It is especially dangerous for young people who can easily find it accidentally. A child who accidentally finds porn online is likely to feel a mixture of emotions that they are not prepared to process. They feel excitement, curiosity, guilt, and then shame. It is likely that they will not report this exposure out of fear of being punished, so it becomes a secret that they keep from parents. The secret results in isolation, isolation can result in anxiety and the desire to escape or change one’s mood. Then the very thing that caused the isolation becomes the remedy as they return to pornography to deal with negative emotions.
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