Seedlings

Porn

Hello to those who have never read my column, who saw the title and started reading.

About eight years ago, I was invited to hunt pheasants with a group of men somewhere in Nebraska. After pulling into the homestead where we were to hunt, I was introduced as ‘Father Kubat,’ to the group. After exchanging pleasantries, we jumped inside several pickup trucks and headed to the first field where we were told were plenty of birds.

After most everyone drove off, I was left with a young farmer in his early 20s. "Father, you can ride with me!" he said. After jumping into the truck, I immediately noticed a pornographic calendar prominently taped to the dashboard and there was ‘Miss November’ in an immodest pose, in her birthday suit. Inside the truck, our eyes met and the look on his face I will never forget. What did old father do? You might be wondering.

There was no question what I was going to do. Saying ‘How about those Packers?’ or letting him think that ‘boys will be boys’ and ‘it’s no big deal’ was not an option. Once I saw the calendar, I knew immediately what I would do. The only thing I didn’t know was if he would get angry. There is nothing worse than hunting next to an angry man with a loaded shotgun, knowing you are the object of his anger.

As we sat there in that awkward moment of silence, I slowly reached over, took down the calendar and while destroying it, gently said that this is something that is very offensive to God and his soul. In that moment, I learned that even though he was not a Catholic, he deep down inside knew it was wrong and took it very well. I cannot remember the rest of our conversation, but it involved some simple counsel, something that only is possible in the brief moment Almighty God gave me with this young soul.

Several months ago I wrote about this topic with some statistics that need not be reiterated. However, let me remind our readers that the habit of viewing pornography is epidemic and now only ‘a click away.’ The connection between this habit and other impure habits are certain, especially for men, including impure actions with self and others. All of these activities constitute grave matter. Let us be reminded that the three elements for mortal sin are that something be of grave matter, one knows it, and chooses it. Didn’t Jesus say in the fifth chapter of Matthew that even looking at a woman with lust constitutes the sin of adultery (Mt 5:28)? This includes pinup calendars hanging on dashboards of pickup trucks.

Fortunately, the antidote for these and other sinful habits is grace from sacraments, namely the Most Holy Eucharist, its frequent reception, Eucharistic Adoration in church, and the frequent use of the sacrament of Penance or confession. Another powerful weapon is the daily recitation of the Holy Rosary.

In addition to this, let the reader be reminded that Catholic Social Services has professionally trained staff in our clinical department who specialize in the treatment sexual addictions. Also remember, because of the generosity of the faithful, we have a grant system for those clients in need of counseling who are either un-insured of under-insured.

Thank you to all of our benefactors who support us, making our grant system possible. Please remember, you will remain in our prayers. By the way, I had a great day of hunting, first for souls and then for pheasants.

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